They say "If you want to see God laugh, just tell him your plans". The lovely cyst grew to an impressive 11.2cm. It has been slow to resolve and rather painful at times. I definitely think I am on the mend and will be happy when I can put this behind us. It seems as if cycling again is not an option for us. The fertility Doc thinks that the another attempt will only result in a larger and more dangerous cyst. As disappointing as this is, we are actually accustomed to this kind of news. Our journey to complete our family has not came easy.
At this point we seem to be at a crossroad. We are currently drifting down a path we never thought we would be. I guess we will see where it leads. When we are closer to knowing our destination we will be happy to fill everyone in!
Tuesday, May 18, 2010
Friday, February 26, 2010
Bad News!
There will be no leaving for India on Sunday! I went in for my scheduled ultrasound and got nothing but BAD news! I have developed a massive hemorrhagic cyst on my right ovary. This cyst is so large that it will prevent any follicles from developing on my left side.
We contacted our Doctors in India and they wanted to have this drained immediately. The problem lies in that there are no International Radiologist in Oregon willing to do this procedure. So I might have to have it surgically removed. We are just going to wait it out for the moment.
This makes for a major setback! If we choose to try again, it will be another 6 weeks before we can start cycling........again!
We contacted our Doctors in India and they wanted to have this drained immediately. The problem lies in that there are no International Radiologist in Oregon willing to do this procedure. So I might have to have it surgically removed. We are just going to wait it out for the moment.
This makes for a major setback! If we choose to try again, it will be another 6 weeks before we can start cycling........again!
Sunday, February 21, 2010
Little Needles & Big Fish!
The 18th was a fabulous day! My dad took me steelhead fishing and I started my Lupron injections. We headed to the North Umpqua at 6am to begin our fishing adventure. I needed to take my injections at 8am so I had to take them with me and administer them on the drift boat. It was a day that I was thankful to be a nurse. Since giving shots (yes, even to myself) are not a big deal for me it went very smoothly. I was even able to do it with out my dad or the fishing guide even noticing. My poor dad really doesn't like needles so I consciously did it so that he didn't have to watch.
The first shot gave me a bad head ache and ringing in my ears, but it really wasn't to bad. Day two seemed to be a different story. I got a huge red, hot, burning,baseball size bump and rash at my injection site. I also felt as if I had the flu. It resolved by evening time. We were a little concerned that I was going to start having reactions to the injections. Thankfully day three went perfect! Not a single bump or rash and I actually felt great all day! Hopefully day two was just a fluke!
We leave a week from today! Can't hardly believe it is coming so fast. We have all our reservations and just need to start packing! It will be Sunday before we know it! Yikes!
The first shot gave me a bad head ache and ringing in my ears, but it really wasn't to bad. Day two seemed to be a different story. I got a huge red, hot, burning,baseball size bump and rash at my injection site. I also felt as if I had the flu. It resolved by evening time. We were a little concerned that I was going to start having reactions to the injections. Thankfully day three went perfect! Not a single bump or rash and I actually felt great all day! Hopefully day two was just a fluke!
We leave a week from today! Can't hardly believe it is coming so fast. We have all our reservations and just need to start packing! It will be Sunday before we know it! Yikes!
Friday, February 5, 2010
We have our dates...........
February 28th we begin our 26 hour flight to Mumbai, India! We can hardly believe it either! We were hoping that it would be soon, but had no idea that it would be in less then three weeks!
I am so excited to begin this journey. My only apprehension is leaving Hayden and flying 10,790 miles away. We have never left him for more then three nights (I even found those three days tough!). I know he will be just fine, as my parents, Ashley and Joe are just like second parents to him. I know that it is going to be more difficult for me then him! I can get through this (at least that's what I keep telling myself).
I started on birth control last week. This seems rather funny to me as I don't have a uterus! The pills are to suppress my egg production. I will start my injections on the 18th.
Our flights are booked and we are still haggling with Hotel prices. Things are just rolling along!
I am so excited to begin this journey. My only apprehension is leaving Hayden and flying 10,790 miles away. We have never left him for more then three nights (I even found those three days tough!). I know he will be just fine, as my parents, Ashley and Joe are just like second parents to him. I know that it is going to be more difficult for me then him! I can get through this (at least that's what I keep telling myself).
I started on birth control last week. This seems rather funny to me as I don't have a uterus! The pills are to suppress my egg production. I will start my injections on the 18th.
Our flights are booked and we are still haggling with Hotel prices. Things are just rolling along!
Monday, January 25, 2010
Surrogates & Swimmers
The past two weeks we have been going crazy getting every thing together for this journey. I feel like I eat, sleep and dream India. The Labs I have drawn today will complete all of our medical requirements. We feel very fortunate to have Dr Schalau's support. She has aided us immensely in getting all of these requirements done!
I am back to working in her office again a couple days a week. Bubba and I have both picked up extra jobs to help off set the cost. We have also sold our Honda.
All of our labs have came back great with the exception of Bubba's semen analysis! As it turns out Bubba has "very poor fertility", go figure. We never had any trouble getting pregnant in the past, so this came much to our surprise. Lucky with IVF he should be "fertile enough". I'm just imagining that the few swimmers he does have look like the group in the picture! I've seen the Subway commercials.......Michael Phelps can swim through any thing you know!
Yesterday we picked out our surrogate! Our agency sent us the profiles of Eight available women. We are given pictures, labs, and a questioner that they completed to aid in our selection. We decided that we needed to make the decision solely on who was more medically fit. All of the women are in perfect health and have no History of problem pregnancy's. I called Dr Schalau and read her all the profiles and we let her make the decision. Even though this baby will have no genetic link to the surrogate, it is hard not to lean towards the more beautiful and kinder appearing surrogates. We Picked one and an alternate. We are now just waiting to get started cycling with the surrogate. We should get our dates any time!
Monday, January 11, 2010
Never Say Never!
It was almost ten years ago that I started to "never say never". At a horse show nearly 17 years ago my mom pointed out a skinny little cowboy. She said "see that Bubba Petty over there? I have a feeling that you are going to marry him!". I looked at my mom in complete disgust and stated that I "will NEVER marry a cowboy, let alone one named Bubba!". Seven years later I happily ate my words!
The last ten years of our relationship have been NEARLY perfect. I say nearly because we have had to deal with an immense amount of loss. To sum it up: 3 lost pregnancy's, a hysterectomy, a failed private adoption, and most recently the placement of a newborn who was then returned to his birth parents after a month of him being "ours".
In the middle of all that pain, we were blessed to have gotten Hayden. It was an 18 month ordeal to finalize his adoption. There were many times that we thought we might lose him! In the end, the stress was well worth it and he is what I live and die for! He is our world.
Infertility is a difficult cross to bare. As a women you often wonder; what is wrong with me? I can't even do the one thing I was put on this earth to do. My husband has been amazingly supportive and constantly reassures me that he has no need for biological children. I agree that I don't need a child with our genetic make up to be "ours". However biological has taken on a whole different meaning to us. To Bubba and I the only thing "biological" means is that the child will be ours and can not be away from us.
After Braxton was returned to his birth parents we felt an indescribable loss. Having that baby made us feel complete! Hayden just LOVED being a "brother". Having a family of four just felt right!
The night I packed up all of Braxton's things had to have been the most emotionally difficult of my life. I felt as if all of my dreams for our future were gone. I was sad that Hayden would never get to be a brother. I never wanted him to grow up an only child. As an only child he would be cheated out of the opportunity to love someone like I love my sister. It was also very difficult to see how hurt Bubba was.
I can't begin to describe the amount of guilt I feel. It is hard to know that I have caused my family (especially my husband) this much pain. I know that I have not intentionally caused any of this loss, but if my own body had not betrayed me we would not be in this situation.
We are now left with three options:
1) Stop being greedy and remain a family of three.
2)Attempt to adopt again.
3) surrogacy
As for number one we are not ready to give up......yet!
Number two is out for sure! We don't think we can handle another failed adoption and we don't want to put Hayden through that kind of loss again.
So it seems as if surrogacy is our LAST and only choice. In the past we had said that we would "NEVER" do surrogacy. It just seems ridiculous to spend tons of money to create another child when there are so many needing homes. The sad reality is that these children are unreachable!
After much thought and research we have decided to travel to India to do Invetro Fertilization and have an Indian Surrogate carry our child.
Why India? Well the cost of having this done in the USA would be in excess of $100,000. In India we will be spending roughly 20% of that. The average Indian women's income is less then $25.00 a month. The Surrogate will receive $7,500 for lending her womb to our child. This money is life changing for them. Many are now able to purchase a home or send their kids to college, it gives them opportunities that they would otherwise not have.
If you are interested in learning more, read this article: www.webmd.com/womb-rent-surrogate-mothers-india.
We realize that this is a highly debatable topic. Just remember that until you have walked in our shoes you should not judge! For those that do feel strongly about this topic please keep your negativity to yourself. We know our risk and have done an insane amount of research on this journey.
Currently we are busy completing the LONG list of labs and studies that our clinic in India is requiring. We are hoping to leave within the next couple of months. This journey will consist of (hopefully two) trips to India. The first being aprox 14 days. On this trip we will be harvesting my eggs (which will be done surgically since I have had a Hysterectomy). The eggs will then be fertilized with Bubba's sperm. If all goes well the embryos will then be transferred to our surrogate. The second trip would be to go back and pick up the baby.
We will use this blog to keep every one updated on our progress and latest events. Thank-you to all of our friends and family! We know that for many of you, you have been riding this emotional journey with us. We can only hope that this journey will be coming to a delightful end approximately 9 months after our first visit to India!
The last ten years of our relationship have been NEARLY perfect. I say nearly because we have had to deal with an immense amount of loss. To sum it up: 3 lost pregnancy's, a hysterectomy, a failed private adoption, and most recently the placement of a newborn who was then returned to his birth parents after a month of him being "ours".
In the middle of all that pain, we were blessed to have gotten Hayden. It was an 18 month ordeal to finalize his adoption. There were many times that we thought we might lose him! In the end, the stress was well worth it and he is what I live and die for! He is our world.
Infertility is a difficult cross to bare. As a women you often wonder; what is wrong with me? I can't even do the one thing I was put on this earth to do. My husband has been amazingly supportive and constantly reassures me that he has no need for biological children. I agree that I don't need a child with our genetic make up to be "ours". However biological has taken on a whole different meaning to us. To Bubba and I the only thing "biological" means is that the child will be ours and can not be away from us.
After Braxton was returned to his birth parents we felt an indescribable loss. Having that baby made us feel complete! Hayden just LOVED being a "brother". Having a family of four just felt right!
The night I packed up all of Braxton's things had to have been the most emotionally difficult of my life. I felt as if all of my dreams for our future were gone. I was sad that Hayden would never get to be a brother. I never wanted him to grow up an only child. As an only child he would be cheated out of the opportunity to love someone like I love my sister. It was also very difficult to see how hurt Bubba was.
I can't begin to describe the amount of guilt I feel. It is hard to know that I have caused my family (especially my husband) this much pain. I know that I have not intentionally caused any of this loss, but if my own body had not betrayed me we would not be in this situation.
We are now left with three options:
1) Stop being greedy and remain a family of three.
2)Attempt to adopt again.
3) surrogacy
As for number one we are not ready to give up......yet!
Number two is out for sure! We don't think we can handle another failed adoption and we don't want to put Hayden through that kind of loss again.
So it seems as if surrogacy is our LAST and only choice. In the past we had said that we would "NEVER" do surrogacy. It just seems ridiculous to spend tons of money to create another child when there are so many needing homes. The sad reality is that these children are unreachable!
After much thought and research we have decided to travel to India to do Invetro Fertilization and have an Indian Surrogate carry our child.
Why India? Well the cost of having this done in the USA would be in excess of $100,000. In India we will be spending roughly 20% of that. The average Indian women's income is less then $25.00 a month. The Surrogate will receive $7,500 for lending her womb to our child. This money is life changing for them. Many are now able to purchase a home or send their kids to college, it gives them opportunities that they would otherwise not have.
If you are interested in learning more, read this article: www.webmd.com/womb-rent-surrogate-mothers-india.
We realize that this is a highly debatable topic. Just remember that until you have walked in our shoes you should not judge! For those that do feel strongly about this topic please keep your negativity to yourself. We know our risk and have done an insane amount of research on this journey.
Currently we are busy completing the LONG list of labs and studies that our clinic in India is requiring. We are hoping to leave within the next couple of months. This journey will consist of (hopefully two) trips to India. The first being aprox 14 days. On this trip we will be harvesting my eggs (which will be done surgically since I have had a Hysterectomy). The eggs will then be fertilized with Bubba's sperm. If all goes well the embryos will then be transferred to our surrogate. The second trip would be to go back and pick up the baby.
We will use this blog to keep every one updated on our progress and latest events. Thank-you to all of our friends and family! We know that for many of you, you have been riding this emotional journey with us. We can only hope that this journey will be coming to a delightful end approximately 9 months after our first visit to India!
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